Emotional Leadership

Step out of your bullshit, rewire and reparent, and find a true sense of empowerment and possibility inside of yourself

You have way more power than you think you do.

But right now? You’re stuck.

You’re caught in the same cycles—burning yourself out, people-pleasing, numbing, overworking, shutting down, over-explaining, avoiding the hard shit.

You keep thinking you’re the problem—or everyone else is.

But what if it’s neither?

What if you could actually understand yourself—and others—deeply enough to break the cycle?

What if the things that keep breaking you down—ruptures, criticism, rejection, conflict—didn’t take you out anymore?

Emotional Leadership is the clearest mirror you’ve ever looked into.

It’s where you finally see every way you’ve been shooting yourself in the foot—and shift it.

It’s where you build the kind of emotional resilience that makes discomfort boring—because it doesn’t shake you anymore.

It’s a lot of work. Ruthless self-honesty.
But once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

You don’t need to be less.
You don’t need to be more.
You just need to be fully you—without the bullshit getting in the way.

This work rewires you.
Repatterns you.
Reparents you.

It gives you back the power you didn’t even know you were missing.

Welcome to Emotional Leadership

Most of us were never taught how to be with our emotions.

We learned to push them down.
To explode and then apologize.
To numb out.
To pretend everything is fine.
To work harder so we didn’t have to feel so much.

But emotions don’t disappear just because we’re avoiding them.

They leak. They lash out. They pile up.

They run the show in our relationships, in our leadership, in our businesses—whether we want them to or not.

Emotional Leadership gives you a new way.

Where you learn to feel things fully—without collapsing.

Where you can feel your pain without making it anyone else’s job to fix.

Where you know how to come back to yourself, again and again.

You don’t get less emotional—you get more skilled at holding it.

You learn to recognize your own patterns. You stop spiraling. You start taking full responsibility for how you show up—and what you pass on.

Because maybe you weren’t taught the skills to handle this well.

But you’re an adult now. And whether you keep recreating harm—or do something different?

That’s on you.

I know how exhausting it is to be the one who always has to hold it all.

And this work asks even more of you.

This level of honesty—with yourself, and with others —is terrifying.

But not doing it? That’s how you keep selling yourself short.

This work is where everything starts to change.

It’s where you go from:

Not using your voice
to confidently leading exercises on the fly.

Shutting up and taking it in your relationships
to naming what’s happening, holding the rupture, and repairing what matters.

Burning bridges the moment someone can’t hold you
to staying rooted and in your power, even when things get messy.

Feeling like you’re boring
to dancing naked on a burning log on a Mexican beach.

Telling everyone your life is great while secretly working till 8pm and drinking wine every night
to actually building a life you don’t have to escape from.

Wondering why things don’t feel good even when it looks good on the surface
to being in full command of your leadership, your relationships, and your own damn self.

When you build emotional intelligence and resilience, the hard parts of being human don’t have to take you out.

You stop spinning in freeze, fawn, or avoidance—and start stepping forward with clarity, strength, and self-trust.

From there, you can have the conversations you’ve been avoiding.

Lead the rooms you thought you weren’t ready for.

Show up as the version of you who doesn’t just dream of more— 

but has the internal resilience to pursue more.

I promise you—the people who are meant to be in your life?

They can handle all of you. They want to meet you in your fullness.

The opportunities that match your gifts?
They’re already circling, but they can’t land if you’re hiding.

The life you want isn’t waiting on some perfect version of you.

It’s waiting for the real you to show up and say yes.

You should’ve been taught this a long time ago.

But you weren’t.

Not in school.
Not in your family.
Not even in most therapy or coaching spaces.

Even a double master’s in clinical counseling didn’t give me what this program does.

We had to piece it together bit by bit— through decades of lived experience, advanced study, and hundreds of trainings.

And that’s why Emotional Leadership exists.

I know how rare it is to find a space that gives you the full picture—a space where you don’t just learn how to manage your emotions, but how to lead with them. Where you don’t just understand people—you know how to hold them, and yourself, through anything.

Inside Emotional Leadership, you’ll learn the kind of advanced trauma and interpersonal skills that go beyond most graduate-level programs.

You’ll develop the awareness and capacity to stay in your leadership—whether you’re navigating conflict in your business, your family, or your own inner world.

You’ll go deep into the real work: conflict repair, boundaries that hold, communication that lands, presence that feels safe.

And you’ll practice a new kind of strength—not the armor you’ve been taught to wear, but the strength of being fully human, fully honest, and still fully in your power.

This is the training we all should have gotten in school.

The kind that helps you build emotional resilience, move through difficulty, communicate clearly, expand your capacity for joy, and navigate the messiness of being human—without losing yourself or harming others in the process.

Because the truth is: even good people do harm when they haven’t been given the right tools.

This program gives you those tools—and the space to integrate them fully.

You won’t find this level of depth anywhere else. We built it because we couldn’t find it. Now it exists—for you.

The honest truth?

The most powerful tool you can build is the ability to hold your fear and discomfort— and keep taking steady steps forward anyway.

Discomfort shouldn’t be a stop sign.
It’s proof that you’re in motion.

And when you stop resisting the hard stuff and start moving through it?

That’s when everything accelerates.

With Emotional Leadership you’ll learn how to elevate your emotional resilience and turn harmful interactions with yourself and others, into healthy ones.

Before & After Emotional Leadership

Curious if this is for you?

Emotional Leadership offers both the deep teachings and the structured space to actually embody them. Over 12 months, you’ll not only learn the skills of emotional mastery—you’ll have consistent support to practice, refine, and apply them in real time.

This is where secure attachment stops being a concept and becomes your lived reality.

You'll build the capacity to move through life, business, and relationships with steadiness, clarity, and self-trust—even when things get messy. With advanced tools in emotional regulation, conflict repair, and self-leadership, you’ll stop defaulting to old patterns and start responding from your most grounded self.

The curriculum is robust, the container is supportive, and the results are lasting.

You’ll be guided through layered teachings, small group sessions, and supervised integration spaces designed to help you lead with transparency, boundaries, and integrity—without abandoning yourself.

This isn’t just about knowing how you wish you could show up.
It’s about actually being able to do it—again and again.

Logistics: Emotional Leadership at a glance

Phase 1:


Understanding Humans and Emotions

[5 months]

In this phase of program, we cover everything we should have all been taught in elementary, middle & high school about being a human and relating to other humans, to help you make sense of the things that you and other people do that maybe never made any sense before. We’ll show you how to recognise and respond to the blocks and patterns present in yourself and shift through them quickly, while also learning to recognise and respond to the blocks and patterns of others in your life, so you can meet them in a place of compassion and awareness.

You will learn to…

  • Recognize trauma responses and the ways in which they express themselves in behaviors, actions, and thoughts.

  • Understand the importance of emotional regulation and how to effectively regulate yourself and others in challenging and overwhelming situations.

  • Expand your somatic knowledge & skills and how to use them to support yourself and others.

  • Understand where emotions are located and how they lead your brain to create stories that cause you to interact with the world in problematic ways.

  • Perceive humans in terms of their emotions, thought processes, and how these two play out in the world and in their bodies.

Phase 2:


Navigating Conflict and Communication

[5 months]

For this phase of the program we cover the topics of healthy boundaries, core human needs, effective communication techniques to increase understanding, the balance of truth and compassion, how to handle conflict of all kinds, and how all of this interplays with everything we learned about emotions and trauma.

You will learn to…

  • Build the capacity for authentic self-expression and vulnerable leadership.

  • Appropriately speak your truth and authentically show up as yourself while staying in your role as a leader; whether you’re parenting, working with clients, or helping out in your community.

  • Understand your own conflict styles, what happens for you when you are triggered, and how to stay in healthy leadership when that happens.

  • Recognize how others are showing up and help them emotionally regulate and express themselves in a healthy way.

  • Maintain the ability to understand and make yourself understood during conflict situations that are triggering.

Phase 3:


Personal Integrity, Ethics, and Application of Healthy Leadership Principles

[2 months]

In this phase of the certification program we focus on integrating the previous 10 months and how to apply your learning to all areas of your life ethically and with integrity.

You will learn to…

  • Make aligned decisions for yourself, or your business, career, family or community, and help others do the same.

  • Operate within systems that are already in place and maintain your healthy emotional leadership style.

  • Create a culture and environment that are centered in emotional leadership, holistic awareness, and a deep understanding of humans.

  • Handle repair processes when you mess up (and we all do!) so that even when you step out of integrity, you can step back in and hold yourself and others through the process.

  • Create a code of ethics for yourself - a way to guide your own leadership and stay in your truth and integrity, regardless of what might be happening outside of you.


By the end of this program, you’ll see yourself—and everyone around you—more clearly than ever before.

You’ll be grounded, self-responsible, and emotionally resourced, able to meet challenge without collapse.

You’ll be able to hold others without abandoning yourself.

And able to lead and live from a place that feels real, steady, and secure- whether in your business, career, family or community.

What Your Learning Experience Will Look Like:

This is a rich, deep experiential & training program specifically formulated to stretch you, but also to hold you in the stretch.

We move through a very specific model, learning a concept, learning a skill that helps to embody that concept, practicing that skill, and then integrating with coaching calls.

Throughout the program, we have regular integration periods to help you integrate the learnings, practice the skills, and put these into practice in your work, home and life, as well as a Slack channel for connection and two in person events to help to foster and build community and connection along the way.

Teaching Schedule

Our Teaching Schedule over the course of our 12 months together is set up to fully support you each month, allowing you to dive deep into understanding and implementing the concepts that we teach into your day to day life.


WEEK 1

TUESDAY 2 - 3:30PM MST:

LIVE CONCEPT TEACHING W/ JEN & TIM

Learn the fundamental concepts of the unit, preparing you to understand fully what is happening and why, both in yourself and in others. Interactive with Q&A

THURSDAY 2 - 3:30PM MST:

SKILL TRAINING W/ JEN & TIM

Learn a foundation coaching or facilitation tool that will help you to integrate this concept into your life, and lead yourself and others through the embodiment of the concept we learned.


WEEK 2

TUESDAY 2 - 3:30PM MST:

FACILITATED WORKSHOP W/ JEN & TIM

Apply the skill you learned live, practicing with your peers as you lead each other through the exercise, allowing you to do your own personal work while also strengthening your leadership.

THURSDAY 2 - 3:45PM MST:

GROUP COACHING W/ JEN & TIM

Get support. This is the space for you to ask questions and receive personalized coaching for your unique situation, concerns, or blocks.


WEEK 3

TUESDAY 2 - 3:30PM MST:

FACILITATED WORKSHOP OR ACTIVE PRACTICE

Continue to practice skills, apply learnings, and regulate your nervous system through active meditation, mindset practices, and communication skill building

THURSDAY 2 - 3:30PM MST:

GROUP COACHING CALL

Get support. This is the space for you to ask questions and receive personalized coaching for your unique situation, concerns, or blocks.


WEEK 4

———— INTEGRATION WEEK ————


Teaching Modules

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  • Logistics, Set Up, Getting to Know Each Other, and Nervous System Tools for the Whole Program

  • Based on the work of Franz Rupert, we look at the ways we operate in the world - in our strategies, our wounds, and from our healthiest, highest intuitive self, why awareness of this is important and how it will effect and change how you experience your life and how you engage with the relationships in your life, from family to work to romance.

  • Start to notice the signs of stress, anxiety, depression, fear, anger, sadness and joy, and to tune in and be present with your body - and why dropping out of our thinking minds matters so much.

  • Dive into parts work and understand why you might say, “one part of me wants this, but another wants something totally different!” Learn about how emotions get stuck at different ages of self, and how we can listen and integrate parts of ourselves to feel more whole and gain emotional maturity.

  • Learn about how we show up in life, in business, and with other people with conscious and subconscious agendas that reinforce our worst stories about others, ourselves, and the world - and how to break these patterns to create instant noticeable shifts in your life.

  • Explore the edges of what healthy boundaries are in your life while learning about what boundaries are and why they are important - beyond what we normally hear. Practice setting boundaries and explore what advanced boundaries can give you in your life.

  • Why do we expect so much of ourselves, and have such intense internal criticism when it feels like we aren’t doing enough? We’ll break down the concepts of capacity v. capability in this module, and explore why operating within capacity is so important, and how we can expand our capacity to be able to hold more.

  • Meet with your entire cohort in person in Denver, Colorado for a 4 day retreat where we will do additional somatic (in the body) healing work and build community and the capacity to show up authentically and vulnerably with each other.

  • Explore the space between your different roles in life and the ways in which our patterns and emotions can take us out, and learn helpful tools that will allow you to come back to your power in each of the roles in your life. Bonus Training: What happens when you hold more than one role with someone? We will explore dual relationships, too.

  • How can we make the responsibility we hold feel lighter? What’s ours to hold, versus what is meant to be held by the other people in our lives? What happens when you can’t show up for your responsibilities, and need to repair a relationship and own what happened? We’ll explore it all and more in this module

  • Our take on NVC (non-violent communication) techniques, but taught in a framework that will allow you to resolve your own triggers, get real about your needs and feelings, and drop into more connected relationship with the people around you without the formality or the use of a facilitator in conflict.

  • What’s the difference between personal ethics and professional ethics? What are the ethics and standards that you hold to in your life? In your home? In your business or your work? In your relationships? Determine your personal ethics and standards and learn to apply them in all areas of life while also allowing for others who’s ethics and standards might differ from yours.

  • Head back to Denver, Colorado for another four day closing retreat of powerful in-person exercises with your cohort

  • Final Closing & Integration Calls with Jen & Tim as we complete the program

Virtual & In-Person Retreats

There are three retreats planned for this program:

1) VIRTUAL: DATES TBD FOR 2025/2026

Our opening retreat will be the kick-off event.

This time is designed to set expectations, boundaries, and let everyone get to know each other.

We’ll jump right in with some basic core concepts and skills, and make sure you have a vision of what you want to receive from this program.

2) IN-PERSON: DATES TBD FOR 2025/2026

| The second retreat will take place around the half-way mark, in a location TBD.

We’ll do a deeper exploration and practice of skills we’ve learned, connect more intimately as a group, and be lead in dynamic facilitated exercises that will help you integrate and expand your leadership.

Some meals are included, students book their own accommodations

3) IN-PERSON: DATES TBD FOR 2025/2026

| The third retreat will take place at the end of the program, in a location TBD.

We’ll do a deeper exploration and practice of skills we’ve learned, connect more intimately as a group, and be lead in dynamic facilitated exercises that will help you integrate and expand your leadership.

Some meals are included, students book their own accommodations

Commonly Asked Questions About the Learning Experience

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  • On average, you should expect to spend 3-4 hours a week learning, integrating, and practicing this information.

  • This is a high-touch and comprehensive program. You will be supported by me, a talented co-facilitator, support facilitators and coaches, a student coordinator, and peer accountability groups.

  • There will be a Slack channel for communication within the group and to help keep you connected to everything that is going on within the program.

Meet Your Facilitators

Jen Underwood; Emotional Resilience Coach…


Jen is an ex-therapist turned facilitator and coach. She combines her extensive training and real-life experience in life and business to deliver firm but gentle mentorship that is always based in love and compassion — with a solid backbone of truth.

Jen is a trauma-trained specialist, and has spent over a decade working with some of the most traumatized people on the planet. Now, in Emotional Leadership, she uses this on the ground experience and her wide range of professional and academic trainings, including a double Masters in Science in Clinical Counseling and Addiction Studies, years of advanced PhD coursework in Leadership, and a Coaching Certification in Somatic Coaching & Leadership, to offer dynamic teachings of concepts and skills and hold students in the process of doing their own development and leadership work.

The thing she cares the most about is helping others to help others while not causing suffering to themselves in the process - something that she had to learn how to do herself.

She lives in Denver, Colorado with her teenager daughter, and when she’s not teaching and coaching, is an active writer and speaker, always continuing to further develop her own leadership and learning.

Tim DeSutter; Vibrational Wellness Coach…


Tim has a wide experience of leadership. He has been studying trauma and vibrational wellness for over 25 years and is a master level coach, teacher, and facilitator. He left a Fortune 100 corporation and a high level sales and leadership position in 2014, and has faced the challenges of leadership both in large corporate spaces and in building and holding his own business.

Tim specializes in working with people who coach and lead others, helping them expand the impact and quality of their work by clearing trauma patterns, expanding emotional capacity, holding energetic boundaries, and helping them uncover their unique magic and leadership gifts while staying in the power of their integrity and personal sovereignty.

A world traveler, Tim has a global client base and has facilitated workshops around the world. He believes strongly in the power of mind body medicine and the connections between thoughts, emotions, and wellness, and brings into the container the extra awareness around our energetic bodies and how that impacts our leadership.

What Participants Are Saying…

This program has also brought me new ways of being. With clients, I now have a broader spectrum of tools to work with. I can better stay in my role and deftly respond to their needs. I can better discern what is mine from others. With my marketing, I can now open up publicly in ways that help folks to know me better, and to know what I offer professionally. It has given me an expanded awareness of what Leadership truly is.

- Jenevie -

Emotional Leadership has helped me to feel more grounded. I have many more tools at my disposal for helping overcome difficult situations. Rather than falling into a trauma response, I am able to drop into my body more easily and focus my curiosity on the discomfort to help me process what is going on in my world and why it happened. As a result, I have been able to gain better clarity around my business and establish more healthy boundaries around my work and in my home.

- Rob -

Emotional Leadership is the program pretty much everyone needs - especially as a facilitator/coach, but even as a day to day human. We learned essential skills in navigating our thoughts and emotions holistically, went through practices/deep transformations ourselves, and learned the practical skills to hold a safe and effective space. I feel more competent in holding space for clients, and now have many more skills I can use and deepen in myself.

- Habekkah -

Emotional Leadership is by far the most in-depth and well-rounded coach training program I've ever experienced (I currently hold 5 other certifications) and is the best foundation for becoming a coach. As an experienced coach, it's been hugely impactful for deepening & enriching my current skillset.

- Haley -

If you’re feeling called to join the Emotional Leadership Program and you’re ready to do the work, DO IT. DON’T DELAY. It’s one of the single best decisions I’ve ever made, both for my own healing and my leadership in all ways.

- Julie -

In Emotional Leadership I’ve conceived of bigger dreams, can hold space for them, and bring myself to them in ever more meaningful ways. I’m in awe that I comfortably identify myself as a business owner and leader where I hadn’t before. EL has helped me to lean in. It’s been an ideal program for me in terms of mentorship, content, and format. It's been an ideal program for me in terms of content and format.

- Inger -

Why we had to create this program…

As a high school teacher in gang-centered areas and as a social worker and clinical counsellor for physically disabled, mentally ill, and chronically addicted homeless adults, Jen has worked with some of the most traumatized humans on this planet.

What she observed and realized during that time – and now sees everywhere in business and life – is that many people in helping professions and leadership positions receive guidelines and a strong foundation in ethics around how you should or shouldn’t act within the profession to avoid doing harm….but not enough tools are taught to help people understand the ways to not just avoid trauma but to manage how our own trauma expresses itself.

This results in good people who want to be healing and helping others but who end up hurting not only themselves, but also their clients, their families, their businesses, and everyone who works for them and with them.


When it was time to develop this training, Jen reached out to one of her most valued friends and mentors, Tim, to help develop it and hold it with her.


Tim had similar experiences throughout his several decades of business and personal development experience, watching unethical and harmful behaviors in the corporate settings he worked in, and suffering breakdowns with mentors as he did more personal development work.

Jen knew Tim’s past, and his personal commitment to integrity, ethics, and leadership.

They had already worked together for years, supporting each other in each other’s separate business and personal growth journeys — and knew that Tim’s additional knowledge, expertise, and skills would greatly benefit the container and all the students in it.

Together, they developed the curriculum for Emotional Leadership, building each module so that it stacks one upon another, and watched the students that first year flourish.

Their shared commitment to a high level of professional skills and personal integrity is the bedrock of Emotional Leadership, that is further enriched by their commitment to transparency with each other and their students. As best friends, business partners, practitioners that hold each other as clients, and now co-facilitators in Emotional Leadership, they walk the talk every day of what they teach their students, in and outside of class.

It is their greatest honor to help others develop their leadership and watch those leaders put their unique gifts into the world, powerfully and authentically.

Emotional Leadership 2025/2026

Our next cohort begins in Spring 2025.

One Payment

$12,995

Monthly Payment Plan

$925 x 15


Leadership is work that does not end… but what if, you never wanted it to?

Frequently Asked Questions

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  • Our current cohort is in session. The next cohort will begin in spring of 2025 (approximately May) and go for 12 months, through 2026.

    Exact dates will be updated here as we have them.

  • For the current cohort, calls are Tuesdays and Thursdays at 2pm Mountain Time, and will last for 90 minutes.

    All calls will be recorded and uploaded in Thinkific, available to watch later.

  • Leadership is not a title that needs to officially be given to you. For this certification, many types of leaders are invited. Leaders of families, people with leadership positions within companies, entrepreneurs, etc.. If you guide and support people in any capacity, you are a leader.

  • This is a high touch container with all teachings delivered live. Within each module (which are 4 weeks long), there are a total of 6 calls. Jen + Tim will offer support around specific cases from life, teach and train, and guide skills practice. During the workshop calls, your practice sessions will be supervised, and Jen + Tim will offer guidance and reflections to support your learning.

    You will be paired up with a peer support group, and will have access to a Slack channel for celebrations, logistics and connection with your peers.

    Jen will be on all calls (or nearly all), however it is important to recognize this is a teaching and experiential learning program for you to embrace the skills necessary to step into aligned Emotional Leadership. This is not a coaching container, and as such, there is no coaching offered outside of calls.

  • Commitments and consistency is what we build our businesses on. Upon registering, you will be sent a legal contract stipulating that no refunds are offered and you agree to pay in full regardless of outcome or a change in circumstances.

    There are rare circumstances where something is just not a good fit or extreme life events happen, and in those times, contracts sometimes can be ended early, at the company’s discretion.

    All other terminations will require a 50% pay in full buyout on the remaining due in the contract

  • There are no prerequisites for doing this program.

    No matter where you are starting from, you can come in and have this program work for you.

    That being said, the one requirement is that you join with curiosity and courage. You do need to be willing to come in and look at yourself, your patterns, and the places in yourself that need to shift.

    You need to be able to have that curiosity for yourself and other people, and have the courage to be honest, vulnerable, and authentic.

    You don’t have to be 100% on either of those, it’s our job to support you in finding the safety that you need to be courageous and the grounding to be curious.

    You just have to be willing to let this program work for you.

  • We are still determining where retreats will be for our 2025 cohort and setting exact dates. These will be provided by March 2025, so that you have lots of time to plan. By purchasing our early bird special, you acknowledge that you are purchasing without these specific details.

  • Yes… but why wait? The program has a fee, absolutely — but what is the cost of another year of putting off this work? For most people, it’s more than they want to pay - in time, in money, in energy, and in frustration, heartbreak, conflict, and pain. So, yes, we do offer this program every year! But if this is your year, I urge you to join.


Still have questions, or not sure if this is right for you?

Let’s talk. I am happy to answer any questions, talk about your specific circumstances, discuss any concerns that might be coming up, and help you discern if this program is a good fit for you.

Send me an email at jen@jenunderwoodleadership.com or you can send me a message on Facebook or Instagram. I’m always willing to have an open, no pressure, conversation.