Emotional Leadership

BECOME SECURELY ATTACHED

IN YOUR LIFE & BUSINESS

& ELEVATE YOUR SELF-LEADERSHIP

A trauma-informed, personal development program to create emotional resilience and embody a new depth of self-leadership, characterized by transparency, integrity, strength, and advanced awareness of yourself & others.

 

We are meant to move through our emotions, constantly ebbing and flowing in a fluid state through sadness and grief and pleasure and peace and anger and pain and joy and love. ⁠

⁠Like the ocean, that is your natural state of being - movement, ease, grace, through it all.⁠

⁠But we don't live that way, do we? ⁠

⁠We fear the movement of the tides. We see the shores ahead and try to shrink back, afraid that if we crash upon the shores, we will break.⁠

⁠We forget we are the ocean, limitless and expansive, containing multitudes. ⁠

⁠We fear we are but a teacup of liquid, surrounded by fragile porcelain, trying not to spill the little we can hold, always ready to break.⁠

⁠But you are not a teacup. You are the ocean, and breaking is not something you should ever fear. ⁠

⁠Just like the water breaks upon the sand, you will break, but you will never be broken. ⁠

⁠You can hold it all.⁠

 

Welcome to Emotional Leadership

Your emotions are your SUPERPOWER.

If our emotions are an internal ocean of water inside of us, most of us interact with that ocean in one of two ways…

We attempt to ride a speedboat through it, trying to get across the waves as quickly as possible, pretending that we can fully separate ourselves from this body of water and that it doesn’t really effect where we are going (our DOING).

Or…

We fall in, and flail around, drowning, hoping someone or something will pull us out.

Did you know there’s a different way? What if you could command the water around you?

Because here’s the thing… That water? It’s powerful. It’s magic. It’s healing. It’s nothing that we need to fear and when we try to ignore it, it runs the show.

 

What if instead of being at the mercy of the waves of your emotions, you could…

Swim through them and let them caress your body with ease and pleasure…

Let them rage and storm around you while you release your struggles and your pain..

Move them out of your way when you need to get from one place to another, as if you were parting a sea.

What if you could work WITH the power of your emotions instead of always struggling against them?
And what if you had the knowledge, the resourcing, and the skill to help others in your life do the same?

When you’re playing many roles in your life, this is one of the most valuable skills you can learn.

Whether you are parenting, running a business, managing a team, caring for your family or friends, or being part of a community, you are required to lead, co-operate, coordinate, interact and collaborate with others on a daily basis - for everything - so emotions, both yours and those of others, are absolutely going to happen!

It’s important to know how to build emotional intelligence and resilience so in the inevitable challenging moments of being a human on this planet, you can hold space and conversations from your highest self, NOT from your trauma responses and reactions.

To be in a place where you feel afraid to own your deepest desires, express your feelings, and state your needs is understandable.

It is one of the hardest things we will ever do as humans to be so radically honest with others - and with ourselves. And yet, to not do so is to sell yourself short... oh so incredibly short, my loves.

The people who are meant to be in your life want to love you, to meet you, to celebrate you in all your glory.

The opportunities that are perfectly aligned to unleash your particular, special, and unique genius onto the world are already presenting themselves, hoping that you notice them.

The life you were meant to live? It's there... just waiting for you to say yes.

You want to be a leader in your own life, and the lives of others, with a deep understanding of humans in a way that honors both their well-being - and yours.

  • You desire to lead in a way that doesn’t compromise your joy or integrity.

  • You want to inspire others and make them feel valued and empowered under your guidance.

  • You want to have the courage to ask for what you want and feel inherently worthy of receiving it.

  • You want to lead a life that feels purposeful, aligned, and full of pleasure.

  • You want to set an example of what is possible in this lifetime and give everyone around you permission to reach for the same.

You want to have a positive impact on the people, the causes and communities you love & support… while feeling nourished and in integrity with your values as you do it.

But what does that even mean? And how do you hold yourself fully while you hold everyone else, when everyone is so different from each other and have so many conflicting needs?

You may have heard that in order to be a positive influence on others, you need to be strong, to keep it together, to project a sense of confidence, to hide your emotions and anything personal about yourself in order to stay in control.

You may have heard some of the buzz about being trauma-informed, sensitive to others, and have taken some trainings so that you understand others and their differences better.

You may have taken classes, workshops or courses to gain additional skills, and you have done solid personal work to understand yourself better. You want to be a good leader, and have done everything you know to help you be so.

 

So what makes this program so different than every other thing out there? Let us explain…

Learning to manage your emotions, hold anything that comes up, and confidently respond to life, work, and other humans from a place of emotional resilience will transform how you feel about yourself and others in all situations, even when faced with the most difficult challenges.

It will have you meeting the toughest moments and the most joyous moments life brings you in completely new ways - centered, grounded, and in command of every situation.

We all should have learned these concepts and skills much earlier on in life… but even a double masters in clinical counseling didn’t provide them for me. I had to search out all these concepts and skills on my own, collected over two decades.

I know firsthand that it’s difficult to find a place that equips you with the holistic skills you need to actually understand yourself, hold yourself and others, and command your emotional reality to create a kind of internal strength that is beyond anything you’ve ever dreamed of.

The Emotional Leadership Program is that place.

In Emotional Leadership, you will learn advanced trauma and interpersonal skills that go beyond what is offered in masters level clinical programs, helping you to deeply understand yourself and others so that you can stay in your leadership as you navigate the varied roles you play in your life for others - whether being a parent, a CEO, or a partner.

You’ll dive deep into skills and advanced awareness of communication, conflict resolution, and boundaries, so that the way you get to show up and be fully present feels better for you and for others.

And you will practice a new kind of strength, one that is centered in transparency and vulnerability, getting to be fully human and fully held, while still having capacity to move your goals and desires forwards, doing your own inner work while you hold others in doing theirs.

This program is a combination of all the skills, practices and awareness that we should have learned in elementary, middle and high school. But nobody really teaches us the necessary skills we need within the often toxic systems that are already in place around us, to build resilience and capacity, manage relationships, lean into joy, or handle day to day difficulties in healthy ways, .

That’s why even great people can end up being harmful to themselves and others.

You simply aren’t taught the holistic blend of abilities you need to lead and experience life in this embodied way.

You would be hard pressed to find all of this information inside of any other program anywhere else. We know, because we built it to instill and integrate the teachings that we learned over two decades and in hundreds of workshops and trainings.

The teachings in the Emotional Leadership Program will help you cut through years of trial-and-error. With this program, you don’t have to go through the process of piecing all the fragmented knowledge together by yourself.

We don’t just do this work for others. We also do it for ourselves.

The skills and level of emotional mastery you learn in this program will anchor you into a sense of internal safety, that allows you to hold the requirements of life, and still keep moving towards your desires and dreams.

To truly pour your heart into everything, to live a life that is from your greatest gifts, to offer that out into the world, is a terrifying thing to do.

It's real, it's raw, it's vulnerable, and it stirs up all our shit -- and inevitably, that creates so much fear that it sometimes feels impossible to move past it.

The honest truth? You will never move PAST your fear.... but you can learn to move WITH it.

The most powerful tool you can learn is how to hold your fear, be with your fear, and continue to take consistent steps forward even WITH your fear.

Learn how to create from your heart and your greatest gifts, to live a life that is completely you, and hold all of it at once and have the ability to tune into a strong sense of internal safety that allows you to meet life fully, and continuously choose growth and the risks that come with it.

You’ll be able to reach your desired outcomes many, many times faster, and collapse the time it takes for you to experience everything you want.

You want more happiness, joy, surrender, trust, peace, sex, pleasure, and FUN in your life!

Look, there's unlimited possibility for all of that in life, so if you're not experiencing the heights of you that you want, if your general day to day feels like a constant up and down struggle dashing between what you need to do for yourself, and the obligations and pressures of being there for other people in your life, and there’s never enough time and energy for the things that nourish you, inspire you or fuel you, I hate to tell you this, but...

You're probably the one blocking all your experience of all that yumminess in your life.

For most of us, all the good delicious wonderful amazing feelings are just as hard and scary and overwhelming as the so called "bad" feelings -- if not more so.

So we block the opportunities to call in more happiness and joy and pleasure. We put our heads down and go back to work. We turn on the tv. We pour that third or fourth glass of wine. We spend our weekends "catching up" on housework and sleep. Work, work, and more work.

Someday, all the tasks on your list will be done and THEN you can go have some fun. Someday, you'll have more money, or the partner you want, or more interesting friends, or more time, and then you'll go spend your time doing what you actually want to do rather than staying busy or numbing out.

REAL TALK - "Someday" isn't coming and if you don't know how to relax and enjoy your life now you won't know how to do it when or if those things ever happen.

BONUS REAL TALK - Learning how to enjoy the moment NOW is usually what calls in and opens the door for the partner, the friends, the money, the time, the possibilities you desire.

So, I hear you. You don't want to do anything else that might mean feeling your shitty feelings. You want something that will call in more joy.

 

And that's exactly why you should join us in the Emotional Leadership Program.

 

With the Emotional Leadership Program you’ll learn how to elevate your emotional resilience and turn harmful interactions with yourself and others, into healthy ones.

 

Before & After Emotional Resilience Work

If you’re feeing a little called out with any of the above examples… don’t.

The goal isn’t to think you’re perfect or be unshakable or be impossibly confident all the time.

You don’t really want that, I promise.

What you DO want is to know that everything is okay, even in the wobbles… to still be able to relax and trust and reach out for help and know that it will pass, because that is where the gold of Emotional Leadership lies.

The wobbles aren’t bad — in fact they give you an opportunity to further grow and stretch and strengthen yourself. They can remind you of where you came from and how far you’ve grown. They can give you a chance to use new muscles and get ready for that next-level you may not even have admitted that you want yet.

 

We won’t teach you how to not wobble — but we will teach you how to not fall down and collapse in those wobbles, or check out and flit away into distracting fun when they hit, or go into hyperdrive overworking hustle when you feel the rumbling starting.

We’ll teach you how to hold the moments of shakiness, how to show up in them, how to use them to grow, and how to love yourself through them, so you can feel confident…

  • To feel the fear that being vulnerable and authentic brings up in you, and take shaky tentative steps forward anyway.

  • To ground in your desires, in your truth, and listen to your intuition, a voice that always seems to know much better than any voice that comes from your head.

  • To let grief rip you apart at the seams and sew you back together as an older, wiser version of yourself.

  • To lean into joy, pleasure, passion, to use your yes liberally and to give yourself over to every good moment with pure abandon.

  • To channel your anger to the things that you could influence rather than let it fester in the areas where you have no control.

  • To create new thought patterns and stories that serve you, and how to let the ones that don’t serve you float right on by * waves goodbye *

  • To be a human-y human, with all the mess, the ups and downs, and still thrive.


Let’s have a look at examples of how you might respond before Emotional Leadership, and how you might respond after…

  • Letting Fear Take the Wheel...

    Situation: You are unhappy with the work you are doing, or don’t feel valued and compensated in a truly supportive way for the time, effort, and energy you put into it. You want more - but you hear a lot of voices in your head saying that it’s not possible to do the work you truly want to do / charge what you want to charge for it.

    Harmful expression: You let the fear take the wheel. You continue work you don’t love, or accept less in payment than would feel truly equitable and supportive. You tell yourself you have no choice, while resentment and unhappiness grows. You may pay your team less than they deserve in response, constantly spin in a cycle of over-doing and over-giving, or check out completely.

    Healthy Expression: You take an honest look at what’s happening, and do something to shift it into alignment. You get support to help with the emotional regulation of facing fears and the mindset blocks of limiting beliefs. You know that if it isn’t working for you, it isn’t working for anyone else, and you do the work to create shifts that become win-wins for everyone involved.

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Sound like a program you want to learn more about?

Elevate your leadership style and navigate life, work and relationships with confidence, compassion, and a bigger vision of what is possible for you and others when we center each other’s humanness. For 12 months, learn the emotional leadership skills and strategies you need and consistently apply and integrate what you learn in small group sessions, self-study, and supervised training sessions.

This program will make sure that you don’t simply know how you would like to show up as a positive example in the world, but that you actually have the ability to do it.

Logistics: The Emotional Leadership Program
at a glance

Phase 1:


Understanding Humans and Emotions

[5 months]

 

In this phase of program, we cover everything we should have all been taught in elementary, middle & high school about being a human and relating to other humans, to help you make sense of the things that you and other people do that maybe never made any sense before. We’ll show you how to recognise and respond to the blocks and patterns present in yourself and shift through them quickly, while also learning to recognise and respond to the blocks and patterns of others in your life, so you can meet them in a place of compassion and awareness.

You will learn to…

  • Recognize trauma responses and the ways in which they express themselves in behaviors, actions, and thoughts.

  • Understand the importance of emotional regulation and how to effectively regulate yourself and others in challenging and overwhelming situations.

  • Expand your somatic knowledge & skills and how to use them to support yourself and others.

  • Understand where emotions are located and how they lead your brain to create stories that cause you to interact with the world in problematic ways.

  • Perceive humans in terms of their emotions, thought processes, and how these two play out in the world and in their bodies.

Phase 2:


Navigating Conflict and Communication

[5 months]

 

For this phase of the program we cover the topics of healthy boundaries, core human needs, effective communication techniques to increase understanding, the balance of truth and compassion, how to handle conflict of all kinds, and how all of this interplays with everything we learned about emotions and trauma.

You will learn to…

  • Build the capacity for authentic self-expression and vulnerable leadership.

  • Appropriately speak your truth and authentically show up as yourself while staying in your role as a leader; whether you’re parenting, working with clients, or helping out in your community.

  • Understand your own conflict styles, what happens for you when you are triggered, and how to stay in healthy leadership when that happens.

  • Recognize how others are showing up and help them emotionally regulate and express themselves in a healthy way.

  • Maintain the ability to understand and make yourself understood during conflict situations that are triggering.

Phase 3:


Personal Integrity, Ethics, and Application of Healthy Leadership Principles

[2 months]

 

In this phase of the certification program we focus on integrating the previous 10 months and how to apply your learning to all areas of your life ethically and with integrity.

You will learn to…

  • Make aligned decisions for yourself, or your business, career, family or community, and help others do the same.

  • Operate within systems that are already in place and maintain your healthy emotional leadership style.

  • Create a culture and environment that are centered in emotional leadership, holistic awareness, and a deep understanding of humans.

  • Handle repair processes when you mess up (and we all do!) so that even when you step out of integrity, you can step back in and hold yourself and others through the process.

  • Create a code of ethics for yourself - a way to guide your own leadership and stay in your truth and integrity, regardless of what might be happening outside of you.


 

You’ll know Emotional Leadership is for you if…

  • A part of you knows that navigating life, work, family and everything in between should be easier than it is - and you’re ready to make changes that would create that in your life.

  • It seems like some people seem to be able to just do what they want to do, and show up able to connect deeper in relationships, and you're willing to believe that maybe this is something you can learn.

  • You wish you were more confident, that you weren't so damn hard on yourself all the time, that you could take risks and make your dreams a reality the way you seem some other people do.

After this program, you’ll walk away feeling confident, grounded, able to hold safe space for yourself, and able to meet and support others at new depths of connection and care - no matter what, in any situation.

You’ll know how to balance compassion and truth, take care of yourself just as much as you take care of others, and feel plugged into a sense of purpose, joy, and inspiration that exudes outward - whether in your business, family, community or projects.

What Your Learning Experience Will Look Like-
In Detail…

Throughout our 12 months together, you will laugh, you may cry, and you’ll likely have a few moments where you take a deep breath and feel a little overwhelmed by how the teachings stretch you.

This is a rich, deep experiential & training program specifically formulated to stretch you, but also to hold you in the stretch. We move through a very specific model, learning a concept, learning a skill that helps to embody that concept, practicing that skill, and then integrating with coaching calls.

Throughout the program, we have regular integration periods to help you integrate the learnings, practice the skills, and put these into practice in your work, home and life, as well as a Slack channel for connection and two in person events to help to foster and build community and connection along the way.

Teaching Schedule

Our Teaching Schedule over the course of our 12 months together is set up to fully support you each month, allowing you to dive deep into understanding and implementing the concepts that we teach into your day to day life.

 

WEEK 1

TUESDAY 2 - 3:30PM MT:

LIVE CONCEPT TEACHING W/ JEN & TIM

Learn the fundamental concepts of the unit, preparing you to understand fully what is happening and why, both in yourself and in others. Interactive with Q&A

THURSDAY 2 - 3:30PM MT:

SKILL TRAINING W/ JEN & TIM

Learn a foundation coaching or facilitation tool that will help you to integrate this concept into your life, and lead yourself and others through the embodiment of the concept we learned.


WEEK 2

TUESDAY 2 - 3:30PM MT:

FACILITATED WORKSHOP W/ JEN & TIM

Apply the skill you learned live, practicing with your peers as you lead each other through the exercise, allowing you to do your own personal work while also strengthening your leadership.

THURSDAY 2 - 3:45PM MT:

GROUP COACHING W/ JEN & TIM

Get support. This is the space for you to ask questions and receive personalized coaching for your unique situation, concerns, or blocks.


WEEK 3

TUESDAY 2 - 3:30PM MT:

FACILITATED WORKSHOP OR ACTIVE PRACTICE

Continue to practice skills, apply learnings, and regulate your nervous system through active meditation, mindset practices, and communication skill building

THURSDAY 2 - 3:30PM MT:

GROUP COACHING CALL

Get support. This is the space for you to ask questions and receive personalized coaching for your unique situation, concerns, or blocks.


WEEK 4

———— INTEGRATION WEEK ————


Teaching Modules

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Virtual & In-Person Retreats

There are three retreats planned for this program:

 

1) VIRTUAL: DATES TBD FOR 2025/2026

| Our opening retreat will be the kick-off event.

This time is designed to set expectations, boundaries, and let everyone get to know each other.

We’ll jump right in with some basic core concepts and skills, and make sure you have a vision of what you want to receive from this program.

2) IN-PERSON: DATES TBD FOR 2025/2026

| The second retreat will take place around the half-way mark, in a location TBD.

We’ll do a deeper exploration and practice of skills we’ve learned, connect more intimately as a group, and be lead in dynamic facilitated exercises that will help you integrate and expand your leadership.

Some meals are included, students book their own accommodations

3) IN-PERSON: DATES TBD FOR 2025/2026

| The third retreat will take place at the end of the program, in a location TBD.

We’ll do a deeper exploration and practice of skills we’ve learned, connect more intimately as a group, and be lead in dynamic facilitated exercises that will help you integrate and expand your leadership.

Some meals are included, students book their own accommodations

Commonly Asked Questions About the Learning Experience

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Meet Your Facilitators

Jen Underwood; Emotional Resilience Coach…


Jen is an ex-therapist turned facilitator and coach. She combines her extensive training and real-life experience in life and business to deliver firm but gentle mentorship that is always based in love and compassion — with a solid backbone of truth.

Jen is a trauma-trained specialist, and has spent over a decade working with some of the most traumatized people on the planet. Now, in Emotional Leadership, she uses this on the ground experience and her wide range of professional and academic trainings, including a double Masters in Science in Clinical Counseling and Addiction Studies, years of advanced PhD coursework in Leadership, and a Coaching Certification in Somatic Coaching & Leadership, to offer dynamic teachings of concepts and skills and hold students in the process of doing their own development and leadership work.

The thing she cares the most about is helping others to help others while not causing suffering to themselves in the process - something that she had to learn how to do herself.

She lives in Denver, Colorado with her teenager daughter, and when she’s not teaching and coaching, is an active writer and speaker, always continuing to further develop her own leadership and learning.

Tim DeSutter; Vibrational Wellness Coach…


Tim has a wide experience of leadership. He has been studying trauma and vibrational wellness for over 25 years and is a master level coach, teacher, and facilitator. He left a Fortune 100 corporation and a high level sales and leadership position in 2014, and has faced the challenges of leadership both in large corporate spaces and in building and holding his own business.

Tim specializes in working with people who coach and lead others, helping them expand the impact and quality of their work by clearing trauma patterns, expanding emotional capacity, holding energetic boundaries, and helping them uncover their unique magic and leadership gifts while staying in the power of their integrity and personal sovereignty.

A world traveler, Tim has a global client base and has facilitated workshops around the world. He believes strongly in the power of mind body medicine and the connections between thoughts, emotions, and wellness, and brings into the container the extra awareness around our energetic bodies and how that impacts our leadership.

What Participants Are Saying…

This program has also brought me new ways of being. With clients, I now have a broader spectrum of tools to work with. I can better stay in my role and deftly respond to their needs. I can better discern what is mine from others. With my marketing, I can now open up publicly in ways that help folks to know me better, and to know what I offer professionally. It has given me an expanded awareness of what Leadership truly is.

- Jenevie -

Emotional Leadership has helped me to feel more grounded. I have many more tools at my disposal for helping overcome difficult situations. Rather than falling into a trauma response, I am able to drop into my body more easily and focus my curiosity on the discomfort to help me process what is going on in my world and why it happened. As a result, I have been able to gain better clarity around my business and establish more healthy boundaries around my work and in my home.

- Rob -

Emotional Leadership is the program pretty much everyone needs - especially as a facilitator/coach, but even as a day to day human. We learned essential skills in navigating our thoughts and emotions holistically, went through practices/deep transformations ourselves, and learned the practical skills to hold a safe and effective space. I feel more competent in holding space for clients, and now have many more skills I can use and deepen in myself.

- Habekkah -

Emotional Leadership is by far the most in-depth and well-rounded coach training program I've ever experienced (I currently hold 5 other certifications) and is the best foundation for becoming a coach. As an experienced coach, it's been hugely impactful for deepening & enriching my current skillset.

- Haley -

If you’re feeling called to join the Emotional Leadership Program and you’re ready to do the work, DO IT. DON’T DELAY. It’s one of the single best decisions I’ve ever made, both for my own healing and my leadership in all ways.

- Julie -

In Emotional Leadership I’ve conceived of bigger dreams, can hold space for them, and bring myself to them in ever more meaningful ways. I’m in awe that I comfortably identify myself as a business owner and leader where I hadn’t before. EL has helped me to lean in. It’s been an ideal program for me in terms of mentorship, content, and format. It's been an ideal program for me in terms of content and format.

- Inger -

Why we had to create this program…

As a high school teacher in gang-centered areas and as a social worker and clinical counsellor for physically disabled, mentally ill, and chronically addicted homeless adults, Jen has worked with some of the most traumatized humans on this planet.

What she observed and realized during that time – and now sees everywhere in business and life – is that many people in helping professions and leadership positions receive guidelines and a strong foundation in ethics around how you should or shouldn’t act within the profession to avoid doing harm….but not enough tools are taught to help people understand the ways to not just avoid trauma but to manage how our own trauma expresses itself.

This results in good people who want to be healing and helping others but who end up hurting not only themselves, but also their clients, their families, their businesses, and everyone who works for them and with them.

 

When it was time to develop this training, Jen reached out to one of her most valued friends and mentors, Tim, to help develop it and hold it with her.


 

Tim had similar experiences throughout his several decades of business and personal development experience, watching unethical and harmful behaviors in the corporate settings he worked in, and suffering breakdowns with mentors as he did more personal development work.

Jen knew Tim’s past, and his personal commitment to integrity, ethics, and leadership.

They had already worked together for years, supporting each other in each other’s separate business and personal growth journeys — and knew that Tim’s additional knowledge, expertise, and skills would greatly benefit the container and all the students in it.

Together, they developed the curriculum for Emotional Leadership, building each module so that it stacks one upon another, and watched the students that first year flourish.

Their shared commitment to a high level of professional skills and personal integrity is the bedrock of Emotional Leadership, that is further enriched by their commitment to transparency with each other and their students. As best friends, business partners, practitioners that hold each other as clients, and now co-facilitators in Emotional Leadership, they walk the talk every day of what they teach their students, in and outside of class.

It is their greatest honor to help others develop their leadership and watch those leaders put their unique gifts into the world, powerfully and authentically.

Emotional Leadership 2025/2026

Our next cohort begins in Spring 2025.

One Payment

$12,995

Monthly Payment Plan

$925 x 15


Leadership is work that does not end… but what if, you never wanted it to?

Frequently Asked Questions

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Still have questions, or not sure if this is right for you?

Let’s talk. I am happy to answer any questions, talk about your specific circumstances, discuss any concerns that might be coming up, and help you discern if this program is a good fit for you.

Send me an email at jen@jenunderwoodleadership.com or you can send me a message on Facebook or Instagram. I’m always willing to have an open, no pressure, conversation.