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Everything you’ve ever wanted lies in diving into the depths of the darkness, and coming out into the pleasure of the light…

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What is an Emotional Dominatrix?

A client once told me that being coached by me was like working with an emotional dominatrix— “I always know I’m safe even when you’re pushing my edges, I’m excited and a little scared, but I know it’s all for my highest good, and in the end, you always lead me deeper into myself and what I truly want. Plus, I know I can always use my safe word if I need to, and you’ll back off.” That made me laugh… and the Emotional Dominatrix was born.

To me, an Emotional Dominatrix is someone who helps others explore the edges of their emotional life. It’s someone who leads you into the depths of your resistance, your shadows, and your pain, and who helps you soar to heights of pleasure, passion, purpose, joy, and ecstasy in your life that were previously unimaginable or considered impossible for you to achieve. It’s someone who helps you learn your edges and your boundaries and who helps you learn to express both clearly and confidently. Someone who stretches your capacity to receive. Someone who leads the way and shows you all of what is possible with a firm but loving hand. Someone who experientially teaches you how to embrace and surrender to all of your desires and live a full, purpose and passion filled life aligned with all of your greatest dreams.

An emotional dominatrix is… Me.

But don’t get me wrong… the flavor of my personality and my work might be that of an emotional dominatrix, but the work itself? That’s based in science, proven strategies, and well-researched and documented coaching tools.

My coaching is trauma-informed and based in person-centered and somatic experiencing models. I have a Masters in Science in Clinical Counseling and a certification in somatic coaching and leadership, and combine my extensive training with a lot of real-life experience in life and business to deliver firm but gentle coaching that is always based in love and compassion — with a solid backbone of truth.

Emotional Mastery is Made Up Of…

Holding Your Emotions

When you can fully feel your emotions, without running away from them, suppressing them, or numbing them, and know that you are still safe, you have learned how to hold yourself through all of life’s ups and downs.

Trauma Resolution

Old wounds hold old emotions and continue old patterns. When we release and resolve past hurts and pain, we allow for new possibilities to come forward, and create more space inside ourselves for internal safety, trust, and resilience.

Boundaries

Boundaries protect what is important to us. They allow us the space to hold ourselves with love, compassion, and understanding, to stand not just for what we need, but for what we deserve and for what we most desire in life.

Healthy Communication

Expressing ourselves clearly without over-explaining, blaming, judging, or confusion is the key to success in all areas in life — and it starts with simply getting clear with your own thoughts, emotions, desires, and needs.

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What People are saying….

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I am so thankful to have had the privilege to be a part of this mastermind.

“I would so highly recommend the beautiful, SAFE container that was created by Jen throughout our time together. There is nothing like having a solid community built on a solid foundation of trust, confidentiality and mutual admiration. There's also something so awesome about the accountability that was created as well-- the weekly check-ins, the coaching calls, the teaching calls. We all showed up for one another in really profound ways.

Jen really helped me to see how I was being triggered by things that I did not have to be triggered by, and she offered me really concrete tools to be able to keep my blood pressure down and helped me direct my energy to things that matter. She has the incredible ability to see the whole picture and then really dial into the details and put her finger DIRECTLY over "the thing," whatever that thing is (she's done this for me several times, and blows my mind more and more each time)."

Meg Rector

Profound breakthroughs often happen in very subtle ways.

“Jen has a masterful understanding of how to listen in a way that she hears the truth that lays beneath an individual’s story. Her approach allows her clients to find their own strengths, in their own words. And that makes all the difference.

Before working with Jen, things like posting on social media, sending emails, and creating coaching packages would often take me months, and I wasn’t really sure why. Now, things that once stopped me in my tracks have lost their power over me. Everything feels easier, and my business has dramatic improved.”

Tim DeSutter